It never fails to make me roll my eyes when I'm watching a show, and I don't mean a talk show ( something that is getting more and more rare as time passes) and an f bomb or the name of a drug is bleeped out but the instructions to starting a meth lab or pulling off a crime and manipulating the law to get off of the hook is laid out in detail for all to take in and take advantage of. It's practically an instruction guide to society's deterioration. Why am I writing about tv? I'm getting there I promise just bear with me.
How many times have you turned to watch "the news" only to hear report after report about this celebrity's butt or the other's breast or are so and so dating? *eye roll*. Is that NEWS worthy? Shouldn't that be under "entertainment"? Or am I from another planet?
There are so many more news worthy events and happenings going on in the world every day. Causes that people have put on the back burner because of the "Hollywood distraction" causes like famine, ignorance, drought, refugees and the list goes on. All people are interested in now is who's doing who (excuse me for being so blunt) and the dress.. Shallow, superficial things that make them forget for a few hours how terrible their life is by seeing somebody else all glammed up.
The hypocritical part that society plays is that now, as a society, we are fine with having people in our communities killed/ murdered/ commit suicide. In fact let a few days pass and we'll have a hero on our hands who's life will be published in every magazine, newspaper and talked about on every morning show. That hero will emerge from the ashes like a Phoenix, from the most gruesome crimes and in anyone of the three cases I mentioned. If you are aware you'll see that the only purpose of this is to divide people even more. How? TV will guide the way. And here is what I said about mainstream media poison enters. TV will tell you who to root for, who's right and what you should do about it.
On the same note of social hypocrisy; hurl an insult or an obscenity and face the wrath of the people, the media and no one will stop hearing about it. This was taken advantage of so much so that waitresses would claim that certain kinds of insults or slurs were hurled at them just so they can get the attention that they couldn't get as kids probably.
Right. So as you can tell from the title this is my first blog. Ever. You might be wondering why I decided to start a blog or, then again you might not. Either way if you're still reading this you're going to find out. I started this blog because I feel passionately about many things going on around me and in the world. It also frustrates me how the majority of the world is pulling a ton of sh!t and hardly anyone would get called out on it. And if they did they'd be attacked by either the media or by the ignorant majority. Yes, I know.. " Live and let live." but when this starts affecting my life and the future of how my kids will be living theirs I feel I am cornered and left no choice but to retaliate by yes, blogging. Sometimes the pen is mightier than the sward you know.
Now that that is out of the way I would also like to say that I will write about many other things too just wait and I'll surprise you.
Hear me out.
Mainstream media has embedded in our minds that as women we have one of two places in society; the stay at home wife/ mom who does "nothing" . Yes because keeping house, cooking three times a day, raising the future generation, waking up at all hours of the night, helping with homework, caring for sick kids and on and on and on is NOTHING. Or to be a success she must be a CEO of some firm or company or something. And that climb to success must be a lonely one too, because she'll have to compete not only against other women AND stab them in the back to get ahead but she must also compete against men. Men are known to be all businesslike and focused and determined which means a woman will have to "kill" her emotions so to speak and to devote every waking minute to her job if she wants to be respected and taken seriously by her peers.
To give you an example of this look a talk show host who became the biggest success of all time ( not going to mention the name here but feel free to guess) when she was asked why she never had kids, she responded that they would have hated her because she loved her show so much. Meaning she would not have had time for them.
Now let's talk about regular, everyday women like you and I. Have we come across or even were friends with, at one time a mean, jealous, spiteful woman? Well I don't know about you but I've done both. I've come across one and was friends with one (not the same woman). I'm telling you the things women say about their "friends" behind each other backs is mind boggling. I would not believe the things I'd hear. And then many years later I befriended a woman who I met through a mutual friend. Biggest mistake I'd made in a long time.
I have finally discovered how to have an emotionally good day without going all out physically and emotionally. I have to admit though it took a lot of trial and error and more relapses than I'd like to count.
First of all make sure you get a good night sleep, if you don't then nap at the early part of the afternoon.
You know that moment just before opening your eyes? yes, right there. Think of something that makes you happy. It could be a time past, something you'll do today that you're looking forward to, or a person. Think of it for just a few seconds. Then get up and be grateful you woke up to live another day.
Next, and this is crucial because it is the main reason that your day can be good or bad. Do not check your emails, texts, Facebook or any other form of social media. This is typically for two main reasons;
1) We say to ourselves that we'll just have a quick look to catch up with what's been going on, only to have that "quick" look turn into an hour and a half of scrolling and browsing and chatting (guilty of this myself) then whatever morning plans we had set out for ourselves are either abandoned or rushed through. And I hate rushed through, I hate abandoned even more.
I've decided to dedicate my second post to be about the social life killer aka body odor aka BO. Yes, it bothers me that much. Should it? Yes it should considering water, body shampoos, soaps and deodorants are available everywhere, making BO a thing of the past. Or so you'd think.
Let's start with BO basics ( is there such a thing?)
Body odor is the smell of armpit sweat (among other things) and it ranges from really mild, think of when you'd be going in for a hug or a kiss you might smell that person, to a really pungent, revolting smell that would make your stomach turn. Or if you have a weak-ish stomach you might actually throw up. Not a good thing all around.
There are many factors that contribute to BO.. It's about the food a person eats, their health habits or lack of, and obviously very bad hygiene habits. (These are the most well known reasons for BO but not the only only ones.)
Now the ripple effects of BO on a persons' life. Well let's see.. First people will NOT want to be near you and they will dread being around you for fear that you might explode into this pungent stink bomb. Then they will be talking about you being your back, yes they will, especially if the disgraced owner of that BO is a woman. Please don't get started on "society's double standard" here ok? Women take it upon themselves to look and smell a certain way. And like I said previously one of the major contributing factors is personal hygiene. How busy are we that we can't hop in a shower for 8-10 minutes in the morning and evening? It's ridiculous how people go about their day and think that just because they didn't sweat buckets they are excused from showering. Another thing; your clothes if you wore them and ran errands in them then you wash them before you put them on again. That goes double for your gym clothes, I don't care if you wore them to Pilates or yoga. You wore them, you wash them. And feel free to wax, shave or tweeze underarm hair and use deodorant AFTER showering when you're nice and clean because sticking deodorant on you BO will only make the stench worse.
We all go through life with a habit or a desire, or we might develop a habit or a desire as we grow. Not all our habits or desires are or would be healthy. It's like that saying about too much of anything might not necessarily be a good thing.. Sound familiar?
In the early years of school that person could be the kid who couldn't make friends and thought the whole grade was out to get him.. Or it could be the kid who just would not shut up about how childish everyone is and how grown up SHE is (really?). In high school it's the girl who'd obsess about her weight and would ONLY talk diets (shoot me already) or it's the IT girl from the IT crowd talking about her latest boyfriend...
Fast forward to adulthood; we have jobs, spouses and throw in a few kids... What, is there, not to complain about?! Let's see.. First thing that goes is you will hardly ever, and I do mean ever, pee alone again as long as you have a child under the age of two. Joy. Then you feel that your life has turned into a cycle of waking up before the birds ( assuming you'd gotten a few hours of sleep) making multiple breakfasts while doing random things for the kids (refereeing or last minute homework) or the husband ( misplaced something or another) and running out the door to make the school run.
Now the school run, that my friends has a story of it's own.. The traffic? I mean seriously? And could THERE BE any more idiots behind the wheel?
Then it's maybe a bit of gym and back home to chores and lunch cooking and homework and and and and and... Then we crash at night to what we like to call sleep while our brains stay up to question decisions we may or may not have made and make random to-do lists for the next day. The next day? Screw it! Let's go for the full week!!! Then goes off the alarm. Auto-pilot on.
I made the big mistake of washing my hair at night and going to bed before it was dry. The result? A cold that took days to fully develop and knock me out. My fault I know, nothing against the cold.
So here's what I'm doing; lots of warm lemon water, lots of sleep and when I'm up I'd be wrapped in a blanket watching one of my favorite movies, blogging ( obviously) but nothing too mentally or physically strenuous.
Another thing that helps is natural green tea supplements and some good old homemade chicken soup. Above all stay in your PJs, wear a hoodie if you must and whatever you; do not forget to put on socks.
I recommend a really hot shower at some point during the day to wash all those germs and open up the respiratory system. If you have tea tree oil on hand add a few drops in your body shampoo as it is known for its antibacterial and anti fungal properties and you'd feel energized too. Triple bonus!
Disclaimer: I am not a doctor nor do I claim to be. These are simple tricks that work for me.
Sometime before the end of the last academic year I got a phone call from a parent whose kid is in my daughter's year level. She called to let me know that there was a parent committee group ( the equivalent of a PTA but minus the T, instead it was with the school and head principals.. So PPA?) and she let me know what bad condition the school was in and how frustrated she was with the new school principal, of course.
She'd called to ask me to join the group and hopefully corner the principal into meeting the parents' demands and answering some unanswered questions.
Long story short; I attended several meetings and saw that the method of approach was futile in achieving anything so when I got the chance to sign on in another group whose sole interest would be the construction of the school to benefit the students and yes, ultimately my own children too, I jumped at that chance. Why? Because I love making a difference and giving these kids a proper fighting chance at life while being armed with the correct weapon: knowledge.
That parent interfered too much. Got on everybody's case too much and she always made it personal. In the end, at the moment of truth, she did not commit, outting herself and the others as balloons full of hot air.
I went on to become chairperson of that group while the other parent and her posse are, well, parents. I'm proud to be making a difference while they've gone on to make noise.
I find it very ironic at how far man has come in creating all this technology to simplify his life and to save time only to creat more chaos and to be constantly in a hurry.
This lifestyle for some reason or another has caused a form of amnesia if you will; people hardly ever ask. They demand. Not in the imperative sense just stating a question instead of asking. Does that make sense?.. I hope so. And they seem to forget to thank. Call me old fashioned but I prefer to be ASKED and later THANKED, how else are you supposed to know that you are appreciated and not used and taken for granted ( even if you were at least that person could be subtle about it). A boss can be tough and have a really "scary" reputation while having manners. Try it.
Which raises another point; ethics. Have we really stooped so low that we'd resort to backstabbing, sabotaging and demeaning others just to get ahead? And we justify it by saying "yeah but that's how it works".. If we are as good as we say or think we are then we should prove it by being hard workers and true to human ethics. Because my friends once you take the shallow road you will always have that reputation about you and you will never be trusted again.
Another thing that falls under this category is a disgruntled employee quitting or getting fired who then goes on social media to disgrace his or her former employers, some might even go so far and disgrace a whole nation. That, again my friends, only serves to discredit YOUR loyalty, people will think twice about hiring you no matter what your qualifications are because you have no ethics, or specifically no work ethics.
As human beings we are dependent on each other and we need each to get ahead. Let's hold hands ( figuratively speaking) and not use each other as stepping stones. Think what we can accomplish by doing just that.
There seems to be some confusion there. Is this person just ambitious or are they greedy? What differentiates the two? And how to know when someone (or you) have gone from being ambitious to being just plain old greedy.
I'll give my two cents on this and it's from a combination of personal experiences to observations of those around myself in all enviroments, be it family, friends, work or otherwise. Take from it what you want.
Ambition to me is when someone works hard and expects ( rightfully so) that their hard work be noticed and paid off. This is not exclusive to your job, this actually starts off with your attitude towards yourself from really early on in life; do you seriously expect good grades in school or to pass a course in university simply because you show up everyday? What about the work asked of you? Your attitude in the academic/ learning enviroment? Simply put: No work, no play.
Then at home; if you don't keep a proper house and take the time to teach you children basic morals and ethics how do you expect them to turn out well behaved?
To put in the time and effort and strive to be better or to strive to live a better life is ambition.