If I respect the source, if I value his opinions, then his critical remarks shouldn't upset me... I should thank him for criticizing me.
Suppose, however, that I don't respect eh source of an insult... Rather than feeling hurt by his insults, I should feel relieved: If he disapproves of what I am doing, then what I am doing id doubltless the right thing to do. What should worry me is if this contempltible person approved of what I am doing.
When we consider the sources of insults, says Seneca, we will often find that those who insult us can best be described as overgrown children... Such people, says Marcus, rather than deserving our anger, deserve our pity. Page 145
I just recently finished reading A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy and no recent book has resonated quite as strongly with me. I enjoyed so many parts of this book that I didn't want to write a traditional review but instead wanted to share direct quotes that will explain much better than I what Stoicism is and is not.