This might relieve a lot of headaches for you in day to day life:
Consider a binary system for making any decision:
Would I sleep with that girl, yes or no?
Most guys have a scale of one to ten.
The binary system: 1/0. Yes, no?
What else matters, really?
Everything outside of the binary system, in any scenario, is just your ego’s need to assert itself.
For instance, I am a big fan of various TV shows. I used to watch a ton of them, then I realized I’d become sort of addicted, so I stopped watching every single one except for Dexter. Dexter is awesome. I talk about this in my book.
Now, I watch a few shows, in moderation. And I grade them all on the binary scale:
Is this worth watching, yes/no?
I used to say that Dexter was the best show ever. But I don’t agree with that anymore.
Why? Because you can’t make judgements like that about anything that is subjective.
For TV shows, the only practical judgement worth making is if it’s worth watching. Period.
You could say that Tiger Woods is the best golfer of all time, because he’s won more golf games than anyone else.
You could also say that Usain Bolt is the fastest man of all time, because no one has ever run faster than him.
But you can’t say that Dexter is the best TV show of all time, because that’s just my opinion, and it’s as good and bad as anyone else’s.
That said, I will still watch a show like Castle. By most standards, it’s not a top-class show. The acting is pretty good, and I like that the bad guy isn’t always who you thought it was going to be. It’s sometimes pretty funny.
That’s about it. It’s not world class anything. It's average at best. Except that I like it, so I’ll watch it. By my standards today, it IS a top-class show, because top of class means 1, not 0.
At the end of the day, you’re still spending the 40 or 50 minutes to watch the damn thing, so the only question that matters is that of opportunity cost: is this worth watching?
The same scale works for everything:
Partners: would I sleep with her, yes/no?
Food: would I eat this, yes/no?
Business opportunities: will the payoff be worth it, yes/no?
Travel: There are hundreds of countries out there, and as a traveler you might spend weeks trying to figure out the best place to go to... weighing destinations against each other, talking it over, googling some more. And what if there’s some other place we haven’t even considered?
How about picking one place and asking the question: would we enjoy the trip?
Who cares if you would have liked some other place better? Something always happens while you’re there, and you can’t control the vast majority of the factors that determine the success of your trip anyway.
Most people are stuck in the past and the future. In this case, we’re talking about the future.
If the answer to “is it worth it?” is yes, then do it, and enjoy.
for the sake of trivia, here are some of my favorite shows:
Also quite enjoying the brand new Da Vinci's Demons... Jonathan Nolan's Person Of Interest seems to have gotten better by each episode... and Psych deserves a special mention... because if I didn't just severely limit what I could say about it by writing this damn post, I would say that it's the funniest show of all time.
The Walking Dead is a solid 0 on the scale of 0 to 1.
Finally, I will say that what impresses me most about a TV show, or a football team, or a marketer, or whatever, is consistency.
I'm not a big football (soccer) fan, but my brother is. We were recently talking about it. He was doing the talking, mostly. I asked him which team were most consistently at the top of their league. He said that Bayern Munchen hasn't lost the Bundesliga title for more than one year in a row.
They're winners. They win consistently. Even if they were #3 every year, that would be more impressive to me than the team who has a smashing season where they beat everyone for a couple of months, and then slip back into mediocrity.
Same with TV shows. Homeland is an almost-perfect TV show. Every single episode is world class. It has the exact right mix of everything: drama, action, tension, suspense, romance, conflict, mystery, etc...
That show blows my mind with how perfect it is. I can't say the same for Breaking Bad or Game Of Thrones, both rated higher on IMDB than Homeland. (I like the Game of Thrones books better than the HBO version.)
In the marketing world, you see some guys who come out with enormous joint-venture backed product launches. They launch a fancy training program or piece of software, and everybody knows their name for two weeks.
Then they disappear. After paying their affiliates, there's usually not that much left. Usually these fellas don't realize that a launch is not a business model.
Much more impressive is those who start slow and remain consistent. Slowly growing until they're growing fast. Soon enough, everybody knows their name because they do the best marketing consistently and they consistently deliver the best product.
What a concept, huh.
Anyway, I'm going to stop typing now. Enjoy your week.