High stakes emotional autonomy
A big part of emotional autonomy is to fully accept the world around you as it is, and live in the world as it is, and not as you think it should be.
If you think something should be other than it is, you have some work to do.
My brother let me know about this today. The famous swedish football coach Sven-Göran "Svennis" Eriksson, who used to coach the England national team, just lost about £10MM.
Why? He gave his financial adviser total autonomy to do whatever he wanted. It got invested in a bunch of dumb things, and now Eriksson is practically bankrupt.
And he's blaming it on Samir Khan, his former financial adviser. Full story here.
Yeah, it seems Khan is a schmuck. Sure. But is he the only one to blame?
Everyone is responsible for their own lives and all the things in it. The moment he gave the guy full access to his finances was the moment he dug his own grave.
His excuse is that he's "not interested in financial matters." Out of sight, out of mind, right?
Oh please. Grow a pair. You let someone else spend all your money however they wanted with no supervision.
When the stakes are high, it's VERY easy to convince yourself that someone else is at fault.
But it's your life, and it's your show.
You're on the stage. Director, producer, writer, actor.
Stop pretending you're sitting in the audience. It makes for a real dull show.