The typical image of a young Korean woman is petite, with pearly smooth skin. That's not a white-people stereotype, that's just the young Korean woman image in any media, and consequently, anybody's mind.
Whether it's true or not- I mean whatever, if you have eyes you know the answer to that- my school is somewhat of a different story.
You know the scene in Star Wars where Luke, Han, and Leia drop into the garbage chute and the walls slowly close in on them?
My school is that pit. There are hardly any people working here under the age of 40. They don't look depressed, but they don't seem very happy either. I think about what the massage lady told me, about her generation being characterized by one of boredom, and living for the mundane work life numbed by socially acceptable, even expected alcoholism and I wonder; between that and the insane academic schedules forced upon children, which is the bigger contributor to South Korea's prestigious silver cup for the highest suicide rate in the world?
What's it like when your entire identity is your job and your age, the latter serving merely as an indicator of how far away from being married you are?
Just like every other country in the history of the world, women get married earlier than men, and they usually marry older men. Being an unwed woman at age 30 is an extreme oddity here. You're already old news at that point, competing with girls much younger and prettier than you.
Not that different than America? Consider this- Lets say you're a 30 year-old Korean now. When you were 20, how prevalent was plastic surgery? Back then, if you were ugly, odds are it wasn't because you were fat. It wasn't something you could change, you just had suboptimal genes whether it was because your mother had a shitty womb, did a shitty job of taking care of you, or your dad's filthy cum-semen was just made to produce ugly people. Just like my professional basketball career it was over before it even began.
Makeup doesn't level the playing field, not like surgery. Because makeup enhances the beauty of hot people by pretty much the same level, if not more.
So you're thirty now. In the past 10 years, how much more prevalent has surgery become? One of the best times to get plastic surgery is right after high school, when nobody in college knows how ugly you really are, just how you look after surgery. Young people are the ones getting the surgery, not 30 year olds. So today's 30 somethings are now competing with young people who are already hotter on average, and now way hotter still because of how surgery in society has changed.
Korean society has always shunned the older single lady/spinster, but it seems like now it's worse than ever to be single 30-something woman who's trying to date.
Not that it doesn't happen. One of my coteachers for example, is 40 and unmarried. She doesn't have wrinkles, I mean most Asians that age just don't. Her hair is cut short like women of any culture at that age, because when you're 40 your hair is unable to protect itself from overexposure to UV, heat, dryness, and conditioning. That's just a part of getting old. The trend of long beautiful hair reverses, and it becomes easier to look hot with short hair, because if you have less of it its harder to tell how much time has ravaged your body.
The big question is, what's her deal? Well, we talked about her dating life once. She'd been set up with a bunch of guys over a decade ago, but she said they were just too short. She looks younger than her age, and she is a very faithful person. She believes things like all US citizens will have ID microchips implanted in their bodies by 2013, Chinese people like to eat mosquito eyes, and “God”. I know she's really good at praying for things, especially around people, and she probably has a killer playlist of gospel. Her goal every year is to get married, maybe she's just not praying hard enough?