I just got back from San Diego last week and I had a chance to catch up and hang out with some really close friends I worked with when I was living in Virginia, working in Washington D.C. I had a great time catching up, but the stay was definitely too short.
When you’re traveling and moving every few months, it’s common to meet new people and make new friends. Especially when you’re meeting other travelers, or people with other similar interests or obstacles in life, friendships form quickly and strongly. Oftentimes, for me, I find myself hanging out with some of the same people everyday, talking about problems in life or new endeavors and sharing part of my humanity and personality. It’s funny to think I’ve hardly known someone and then all of a sudden I can’t remember living a life without them. A lot of times it feels like I’ve known some of my new friends since I was a kid. Then, all of a sudden, it’s time for someone to move or travel and poof, no hanging out every day. Some people I tend to keep in better contact than with others, but I never lose that sense of closeness I felt with them. It’s like the bond is still there, and everything is just the way it was.
I don’t find it too hard saying goodbye, because I know this world is small and we’ll run into each other soon. I also do it so much that it seems pretty normal to have some of these shorter relationships, and social media does it’s part in making someone seem a lot closer than they are. The hard part, to me, is when I reflect back on some of my friends and think about how I can’t just hang out with them at the drop of a hat. They’re in a different city or state, and we all live busy lives. It’s also hard because, realistically, when you’re moving around a lot and meeting new people, you tend to meet A BUNCH of people. Aside from my close friends back home, who I don’t keep in touch as well as I’d like, I have a whole new bunch of friends I feel really close to, and there’s just not time to stay in close contact with. The thing is, even when I intend to be better at it, some people slip through the cracks.
I’m fortunate that most people I know live busy lives also and understand what it’s like, they’re in the same dilema. Understanding or not, however, I don’t really know a better way around staying in touch than some social media updates and valiant efforts at phone calls and texting.
I miss the new people that have come into my life, to whom I’ve just starting a budding friendship with and have difficulty fostering it with more time and energy. I know some people, inevitably will feel neglected, or used, when all of a sudden daily contact turns into weekly or monthly contact, especially when the friendship is new.
I feel fortunate to be able to live and travel and work in my own style and I appreciate everyone new who is brought into my life because of it. I hope this doesn’t sound too much like “blah blah blah I’m so lucky for this lifestyle,” it’s more of just and observation of the pro’s and con’s that traveling a lot and meeting new people can bring.
Thanks for reading, I hope to catch up with everyone real soon. Leave a comment below and let me know how you feel.
[Pictures above: #1 Runner at sunset in San Diego #2 Some old friends and new friends near the beach #3 The D.C. Krewe in silhouette at Torrey Pines park]