What’s up? Todd Valentine here, and today I’ll be covering How to Flirt.
For a while I wrestled with this topic and how to present it, because naturally you all know what flirting is, when you’re feeling it, and when you’re doing it (especially when you’ve been in the game as long as I have been, and flirting becomes second nature). However, the concept of flirting is actually very hard to define.
So, the first thing I did was the old-school method of pulling out the dictionary to see how it defines flirting. Here’s what I found:
Flirt (verb): to court triflingly or act amorously without serious intentions
Hey guys, Todd Valentine here.
A question I’m often asked when people first find out that I’m a pickup artist or dating coach is, “What’s your pickup line?” It’s a normal question- a natural response to the unknown is to start at the beginning – but in my opinion, guys put way too much emphasis on this “pickup line,” this idea of the first thing you say.
I’ve found that it truly doesn’t matter what you say. I could give a guy with no experience in the game the best possible pickup line, but if it’s done in a nervous or reaction seeking way, or without the right tone of voice or body language, he’s going to look like a complete tool. On the other hand, if we take a guy who is centered in who he is, confident and grounded, and give him something really offensive to say, maybe calling the girl a dog, the guy can make it work (and most of the time, it works well).
What’s interesting about not only the opener, but the game in general, is that it’s not so much about what you say but how you say it. It’s not so much about what you do, as how you do it. Much of the game is about coming off as a guy who has an abundance of women- a guy who has had women and is confident in himself. Many people will try to “fake it till they make it,” and that can work to an extent, but obviously it’s much better to be genuinely confident.
Hey guys, it’s Todd.
Today’s topic is: How to Get Her Phone Number.
Well, obviously the first step is to have a good interaction with the girl. It sounds like common sense right? It’s pretty basic- the better the interaction with the girl goes, the more likely she is to give you her number. In fact, if you run a really good interaction, ideally, if time permits you to get to know her and talk for a bit, she should be the one asking for your number, or at least suggesting that you take hers (however, this doesn’t happen a lot of the time).
So what does that mean? Well, you need to ask for the number at some point. *Note: JUST ASK. Let me repeat that for you. JUST ASK. I used to be in sales, and what I found interesting is that most of my coworkers would fail simply because they would never simply ask for the order. There’s even a statistic I remember reading that says that something like 80% of sales calls end without the caller ever even asking the potential buyer to make an order. Don’t be that guy.
Hey, Todd Valentine here.
Today we’re going to be talking about online game. There is so much I’ve learned on this topic that I could write a book about it (and, actually, I am), so here we’ll stick to the basics, like how to set up an effective profile and how to start messaging. We’ll cover concepts more than we’ll cover specific techniques, but they should definitely be enough to get you started.
First off, you’re probably asking, Why online game?
Well, if you’re new to game, you may find it difficult to get a lot of dates using cold approach. So, by moving that initial interaction online, it is usually much easier to get dates (although at first there may be some hurdles to overcome). The online approach will allow all areas of your game to progress. When you get dates more easily, you will have more opportunities to practice what to do on the actual date, how to escalate, etc.
Hey, it’s Todd Valentine bringing you fundamentals of seduction.
Today’s topic is on how to kiss a girl. This is a very personal topic for me because for a long time I couldn’t kiss girls—even after months of getting numbers and going on multiple dates. I wouldn’t get physical. I had to get over it, and the first thing I realized is that attitude and permission are most important.
You have to give yourself permission to kiss a girl, to make it awkward . . . to fail. If you’re too scared to try, then you’ll end up in the friend zone. You don’t want to miss the window of getting the kiss, because things will not go well after that.
Here are two examples of the low place I was coming from: