The first thing that is on your mind when you wake up in the morning. The last thing that is on your mind as you go to sleep. The irresistible feeling of self-determination you get when you get off course. The sensational movement you feel when you are that much closer to accomplishing *it*.
That is what I would like to call “The Mind-Set of a Dreamer”.
If you were to take a long look at our current society and the people that make up this society you will immediately come to the shocking realization that Dreamers are Scarce. No one is willing to take a leap of faith anymore, visions have become eviscerated, and having a purpose has become over rated. Everywhere you go you can see what I described in the above lines as being carried out as the norm. In fact some of you who are reading this right now are currently doing exactly as I described in the above lines. As you’re reading this you are in doubt about the success of this blog or quite frankly the success of its author simply because you haven’t fully been able to grasp the concept of a dream. Long before I first began writing the first sentence of this blog I had to come to grip with what my dream was. And while I won’t fully disclose the details of my dream I will tell you that I have every intention at the end of this blog helping someone else realize their dream.
Why are Dreamers so important? Good question…keep them coming. Dreamers are important because they create the future. How do I know this is true? Look at some of the Dreamers who have graced our presence in the last century. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Steve Jobs, Michael Jordan, Billy Graham, Our past Presidents, the list goes on and on. These dreamers range from athletes to politicians, to entrepreneurs, civil rights activists and evangelists and of course there are more. All of these people have help create a future in their prospective fields and they serve as example of things that can be accomplished when you dream. I am going to spend the remaining few paragraphs describing what I learned from these Dreamers and how we can all have “The mindset of a dreamer”.
Sagging has become arguably the longest lasting as well as continuous growing trend among our youth dating back to the early 90’s. Since its origin all the way up to present date and time sagging has been opposed. Mainly the opposition is directed towards young people (although older men sagging is not an exclusion) and the opposition is normally orchestrated by adults (although there are a large number of youth against sagging as well).
Today I am here to look at the Opposition to Sagging a new way.
Why do the majority of people oppose sagging so much? Most people answer that question by stating
Has anybody ever wondered why they call it New Year’s Resolution and not New Year’s Solution? The word solution means “to solve a problem” and the prefix re is normally associated with the word again. So basically resolutions means resolving a problem again. I started reflecting back on previous resolutions and I began to realize that most of them were similar resolutions just slightly modified each year.
This led me to the startling idea that perhaps instead of constantly making the same New Year’s Resolution over and over again maybe it was time to reexamine some of these resolutions. As I began reflecting back on my prior new year’s resolution I was able to start seeing some of the mistakes I was making and also began to see how certain obstacles kept defeating me each year.
As many of you are reading this now, most of you will began writing your New Year’s Resolution pretty soon. I recommend that before each and every one of you start to draft these resolutions you take a minute and reflect over last year’s resolution. Make a check list and cross off everything you accomplished. The things that you didn’t quite accomplish add them to the *top* of your New Year’s Resolution and find out what inhibited you from completing those resolutions last year. One thing I do want to make mention is Ecclesiastes 5:5 NIV “It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.”
Since this is a blog that focuses on “looking at things a different way”, I do want to offer a new perspective for those of you going into 2013-2014. I don’t know what any of your New Year’s Resolution are but I do think that it’s important to remember in a world that has become so secular, don’t take Jesus out of the picture.
The Mindset of a Relevant Role Model
I am someone who aspires to be great. Becoming Great is a journey, and on this journey I have come to grasp with the idea that I need others to look up to. Everyone since birth has more than likely had a role model whether that was a family figure, celebrity or friend, most of us have named someone as a role model.
The Mindset of a Relevant Role Model is something that I think most of us have missed throughout our lives. Most of us have been looking up to regular role models instead of relevant role models. While I believe its ok to have regular role models such as actors and singers, or family members and friends, I think relevancy is key.
Relevant role models are different in a sense that they are normally not static. Relevancy deals with the moment, and likewise relevant role models should be people you look up to at certain moments of your life. Think of relevant role models as nutrients. You devour nutrients in order to grow stronger and be a better person. But no matter how good the nutrients are after a while they expire if you haven’t use them all. Same thing with relevant role models, although they provide an excellent source of growth and strength, after a while they should expire.
I think one of the most important mindsets to have is that of "Support". We should want to support others and not only advance our own goals and dreams, but also advance others goals and dreams. I had the privilege of reading this awesome post on www.onyekanchege.com entitled "Am I My Brother's Keeper?” Below is an excerpt taken from the website. I recommend all check this out. Very pivotal information.
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"You hear it every day in the records and songs that our youth are listening to these days; “I will get mine, you get yours”. There is no end to it. It appears that everyone is out to get what they can for themselves and has little to no tolerance for if or how the other person goes about getting/achieving their success in life….as long as I get mine.
Declare today that you will be the person who says, “I will get mine AND I will make sure I show my brother how to get his as well”. The earth is so vast and its people number in the billions. You can’t tell me there’s not enough room for all of us to thrive and grow and be successful. It starts with you and I deciding to drop the selfishness and embrace an inclusive culture. Simply ask yourself today, what can I do to change the way I interact with others and figure out how to help my brother get ahead. I suspect if you do, you will find yourself on a positive growth trajectory.
Hey young people,
Can we be practical for a minute? How many times are you getting the "are you going to college" speech? Anybody getting sick of the "what you want to be when you get older" questions?
Why does it matter right? Shoot....we can just get a job working fast food and be straight right?
How do you handle it when the thing you want the most is right there in front of you and all you have to do is reach out and grab it? But every time you go to grab it that thing takes two giant leaps backwards and you're right back where you started? How do you handle it when the closer you get to the desire you want the most, the more that desire sneaks further away from you? How do you handle it when you're arms length apart from it and every time you make an attempt to grab it, more distance separates you from it?
I recently found myself in a similar predicament. Every time I reached out to make a grab at the thing I desired the most it would move farther back. Picture it for a minute. Imagine having your utmost desire lying about twenty feet ahead of you. And in between you and that desire is obstacle after obstacle. Now imagine battling every obstacle and knocking over every barrier that stood in your way and right when you got close enough to reach out and grab it, that "thing" leaped two gigantic steps backwards and left more obstacles in front of you. Now imagine knocking over all those new obstacles only to get right back to where you just were and to discover the same thing. The further you stretched your hand out to grab it, the further it retreated back from you. In my case I kept trying to reach out and grab it with my own hands. Basically I kept trying to pursue that desire "my way" and thats when it hit me. (literally it just hit me) Instead of trying to reach out and grab it because it was so close, perhaps it was time to put it in God's hand.
How do you handle it when the thing you want the most is right in front of you, and all you have to do is reach out and grab it? Put it in God's hand. Here's what happened when I did that. Instead of that desire moving further backwards it came closer to me. God acted as a bridge between me and my desires and in the process He taught me a valuable lesson. All desires that you wish to obtain must flow *through* God no matter how close you are to it. Psalms 37:4 says "Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart". We don't give ourselves those desires, He gives it to us.
For those of you who are right there next to the thing you desire the most and you're wondering why it keeps moving backward, perhaps you are like me and you are trying to obtain it the wrong way. I think sometimes we get so caught up in the fact that we can *see* it and the fact that it's so close to us that our first instinct is to reach out and grab it. But we have to muster up proper discernment and patience and know that without a bridge to take us over we cannot link up with our desires no matter how close it seems we are.
If you have a Dream that doesn't seem Impossible, consider it an Impostor, because real Dreams are BIG...so Big that they hardly seem believable.
My purpose in this blog is to explain the essentialness of having Big dreams. My very first Blog about a year ago was entitled the "Mindset of a Dreamer" and in that blog I described the importance of having a dream. I think it is now befitting to describe a key factor in dreams that is often left out. That factor is don't just dream, dream big. When you share your dreams with other people it should leave them puzzled, scratching their heads and wondering about the plausibility of your dream.
Why dream so big? Good question. I think that one of the key reasons you should not just dream, but dream big is because of your limitless possibilities. What I mean by that is we have so much unlimited possibilities dwelling in our head that sometimes we never realize it and therefore we never tap into our true possibility. I believe that dreams are manifested from the heart, mind, and soul and then they are formed into reality through the use of our brain. The issue that I see happening a lot is we are dreaming, but we are only dreaming with the stuff that is dwelling in our brain. Brains and Minds are two similar but yet separate entities to me. Plato believed that our brain was just a tangible organ that coordinated body functions, feelings, and actions, whereas the mind is a non-tangible entity that is capable of thought and reason. So if we dream with our mind instead of our brain we can dream bigger because our mind includes limitless possibilities.
Another reason I think we should dream so big is because we don't want our dreams to be shallow. If we dream small then that means that they typically have a small reach and a small impact. However when we dream big then it increases the chance of our dream being impactful beyond our normal environment. Whatever your dream is it should be bigger than you. Whether it’s family, friends, community, environment, nation, world, property, colleagues, peers, or random people, your dream should encompass a second party. So if you dream big you have a better chance of impacting that additional party instead of getting absorbed by just you.
Over the past few months I have had the wonderful opportunity to take part in a wonderful organization called RESULTS. RESULTS is an organization that is dedicated to creating long term solutions to poverty by targeting the root causes – lack of access to education, health care, and economic opportunities. They do this by empowering ordinary people to become extraordinary voices for the end of poverty in their communities, the media, and the halls of government. RESULTS is a global organization with sites in almost every state. I have had the privilege of working within the Charlotte Chapter of RESULTS.
This past weekend at the Charlotte Chapter some of us decided to take part in RESULTS newest campaign “What change would you like to create in the world? I decided to upload here on my blog my personal “Change I would like to create in the world”.
My statement is simple…”The Change I want to see in the World is making more people want to help people EVERYWHERE”. This may sound like a simple request but I cannot tell you how many people often neglect this seemingly simple principle. This is evident by the group of people who do not take time to help others out and even by this growing trend of people no longer believing in the principle of being “my brother’s keeper”. I have noticed that in today’s society more people are concerned with getting all they can, canning all they get, and then sitting on the can and spoiling the rest.
My mindset of changing the world mainly consists of changing the people that make up the world. The best and most effective way to change the world is by one person at a time, ardent hand in ardent hand. With that being said I believe if we make more people want to help other people everywhere we can began to change the world. It is simply amazing what kind of impact one person can have on another person. Whether it is providing shelter, or companionship, or comfort, or filling a void or need, one person can make a tremendous difference in the life of another. So imagine if we can create a chain reaction of that and make more people want to help people everywhere.
The Mindset of Surpassing Stereotypes has to do with two basic things, 1. Stepping Over Stereotypes and 2. Side Stepping Stereotypes.
Stepping Over Stereotypes
I think how we respond to certain stereotypes are critical to the value and importance of the stereotype. What I mean by that is simply stereotypes are just labels. They do not become legitimate until we accept it or act off of it. Think about it this way, If someone calls you "dumb" or "stupid" based on what they perceive you to be that is merely a label. It doesn't become legitimate until you accept it and act off it and therefore proceed into a "dumb" conversation with them. I think lately a lot of us have been giving too much life to mere labels. When you are stereotyped you have two things you can do with that stereotype. You can either 1. Spread it or 2. Stop it. Think about a fire. You got two choices you can either add oxygen (in other words life) and feed into the fire and therefore spread it OR you could smother the fire and therefore stop it. Stereotypes are just like fires. A lot of us have been feeding fires instead of putting them out. Everytime someone calls you outside your name, or judge you unfairly, or performs some type of injustice against you don't stoop down to the level of the stereotype but instead step over it. Force people to see you for you and not what they stereotyped you out to be. The simplest way to to Surpass Stereotypes is to simply Step over them and show people you are above what they perceived you to be.
Side Stepping Stereotypes