In a relationship, am I wrong in thinking that its essentially a guy's job to chase the woman and the woman's to keep the man? Of course I only mean on the surface because relationship stuffs is normally just a mess.
Just to point out that I'm really just talking about 'on the surface' so no I'm not saying that that's how it really is, I'm saying that's pretty much how its viewed.
Ok lets get started! So the situations I've been, considering the small amount of life experience I have, are not enough to prove or support anything, so I'm going to focus on situations older people would be more likely to find themselves in. Oh, that and girls' school doesn't really give you that much experience with guys in a school environment (no shit XD)
It's expected of a guy to start conversation with a girl, chat them up or just talk, its expected of a guy to pick up a girl, not the other way round. It's even viewed that a girl who starts flirting with a guy is slutty or desperate, in contrast (most ._.) guys are viewed as confident when they approach a girl. In my opinion I feel like that view is only subjected by the respective genders towards themselves: girls feel that girls who flirt are slutty but guys feel they're confident and attractive, and girls find guys creepy almost full stop XD
And then when a couple gets together, although the man is expected to try keep their girl happy, make cute gestures and compliment her make her happy etc etc that's pretty much cliché since it's just guys trying to fulfil the Prince Charming role. Not saying they shouldn't cuz we girls like that XD But it's always been viewed that the woman is the home maker, its her job to take care of the emotional crap mostly and her job to keep herself in check to be the woman her man wants. Once again, not saying that's not how it should be.
Feminism - the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.
Sexism - prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex
Anti-Feminism - Antifeminism is opposition to feminism in some or all of its forms.
#yesallwomen and #yesallpeople have been trending recently on twitter, for anyone here who as an account on well basically anything. And this has sparked up some interesting questions about feminism and more interestingly, anti-feminism. Just in case any misunderstandings occur, I’d just firstly like to stress that antifeminism is opposition to feminism in all OR SOME of its forms. So, as oxymoronic as it sounds, I am an antifeminist feminist.
Let me explain. I’m all for equal rights for women, I’m all for women getting paid the same for a job they do to the same standard as men, I’m all for women not having to worry about getting raped every time they enter a club, I’m all for women receiving equal sporting opportunities yada-yada you know the rest.
Love yes love, a typical topic for a young girl such as myself XD But this post is mostly questions - about what a relationship IS, what love IS. So for the past nearly two months ive been with someone who honestly is the best thing in my life ^0^ But its over the internet which i know many people are gonna disregard as just us playing at love not really feeling it and being naiive which probably has some part to play in it, the fact that im just a child and i still believe in 'they all lived happily ever after'~
But, it cant be that these are feelings i have for him and i can confidently say i love him
So, questions - what do you guys think of internet relationships? Do you believe they can exist, work out? And also, is 14 too young to experience 'true love'? Mind sharing anything about your own love stories?
Just to point out, i don't doubt him or myself or my feelings but I want to get the opinions and views of people older and more experienced than me ^ ^
Thats all for today guys! See you next time - good night ^ _ ~
I think one of the easiest ways to ensure your relationship goes smoothly or works out is to make sure that both parties know what to expect, or what it is that they're looking for in their relationship. And both parties should agree on what they want to happen- don't get me wrong, relationships are spontaneous and I'm not saying this is gonna mean that what you want is even going to happen, your life could take you two in a completely different direction! Just saying it might help to know where you stand in that persons life and what to expect in the future ^ ^ Like are you guys exclusive? Do you want a future together? Or are you just gonna try out and see what happens?
Me and my boyfriend are long distance (yes sucks > .
What I want from being with him is love. Someone to love me, someone to love. Someone to turn to when Im scared or upset, someone to stand by, stand with - stand for. Someone to laugh with, someone to wipe my tears and take care of me when im weak, someone to spoil with love and presents, someone to fool around with as well as confide in, someone who trusts me as i trust them.
I want to be for him: someone that makes him happy, someone that always fills his mind, someone that makes many happy memories, someone that can stop his tears or catch them when they fall, someone who can make him feel confident, someone he wants to spend time with, someone he can confide in, someone who loves him ^ ^
To be honest, both of us talk about the future a lot, since we're counting down the days till we can meet and then its four years till I go uni right? If we're still together then, we're gonna live together ^0^ So thats what I want from US, a future with him in it ^ ^
So we all live in reality, lets just establish that. But what's the difference? Im not talking about fantasy as in LotR or Star Wars so no magic or evil dark lords or anything, just 'something that isn't real'. Like dreams, whether that's something you have while you're asleep or dreams as in aspirations for the future. My question is - what's the difference?
Sure, reality is what you're living in now but you wont always be living in 'now', soon 'now' will become 'the past' so what does 'reality' really matter? Are you supposed to live in the past, the present of for the future?
So what if your reality is dark and difficult and hard? Should you live in the present then or live for the future? Dreams wont always stay just dreams if you work to make them come true right? Its finding the strength to believe that your dreams could become reality that's hard ^ ^ But once you believe, that faith will give you strength, give you a purpose :)
Fantasy~ something that isn't real, something that you've created, that you don' know could even ever exist. Something that excites you, gets your heart beating and a smile on your face, something you a give a part of yourself for, something that completes you.
Whether your fantasy is in your music, your art, your passion, your hobby, your hopes or even in someone else, just keep faith and work for it, it's going to be hard and you'll fall so many times but it'll be worth it! The day your fantasy becomes reality will be so so worth it!
I find that in my darkest times, there are small things that still make me smile :) For example, when both me and him are down, he always manages to pick himself up to cheer me up, even just 'i love you' seems to cheer me up if he says it a few time~
But other than that, what does? When Im down, it can take hours and hours or even days to get out of my slump, so what do I do? Well, I can hardly gather the energy to actually be bothered to cheer myself up when Im down, after all, during that time I believe that I deserve all the pain.
So I find it easiest to do things to cheer me up *after* or *before* my depression...which sounds insane XD
I mean like this for example : next to my bed, in a little jar that still has the peeling label of homemade Quincer Apple Jelly, there sits a number of scrolls, words written on roughly torn paper, scrolled up tight and placed in that jar~
And when I need support, when I dont want to fall, then I just read a few scrolls and remind myself its ok, I'll get over it just I like I have a million times over, some scrolls have pretty quotes others have memories, dates I find valuable to me, even little messages to myself from the me that could smile :)
Ok so where to begin~ props to Mirror mirror (reference to Hidingfromheaven) for getting the title sorted out! Basically, me and her decided to do a post on the same topic/title so when you guys are done reading this, check hers out too :)
Sooooo~ to love and let go. To love, to let go *sigh* a topic that I find really I don't know...nostalgic? Well if you read my last post, I said that I 'fear' human contact or to be more accurate intimacy. The whole concept of trust both confuses and frightens me. I don't think I need to go into details since its pretty obvious I have trust issues.
No matter who it is, I've found that everyone seems to leave me. Im not saying this isn't normal, I doubt many people can say they still talk to every person they once trusted or considered a 'friend'. I don't know why but it really affects me, the prospect of trusting someone and losing them. Loving them and letting go.
So lets see...where is this post even going? I just know Im supposed to talk about losing people but..what about it? It hurts and I guess it hurts everyone but I do this really stupid thing where I compare the next person who tries to approach me to the last person who left me and then as I have said before, push them away for fear of the same thing repeating. Which is totally my fault since I always repeat the same mistakes, duh the same thing is going to happen.
Madness. Repeating the same action over and over expecting a different result. I got that from FarCry 3 but I swear Albert Einstein said that? ._.
Mmmh...where to start? So..recently, I feel like I've lost the purpose of my life. Or..to be more accurate, started to realize I have nothing to live for. Everything that defines me is forgotten, something of the past.
My very existence is questionable. The people that surround me - Im invisible to them. Even being hit with a hockey stick in the face goes unnoticed in a room filled with almost 100 people. I guess thats also my fault though, the human species depend on communication, verbal and bodily communication, to get across any message since now theyre mostly desensitized to 'feeling'. So the fact that I didn't call out as I got struck as I sat there probably was the reason it went unnoticed, not my 'invisibility'.
When it feels like my heart isn't beating and the blood lays still in my veins, its music I rely on to course through me and keep me alive so it really struck me when today, I turned on my MP3 (yes MP3) and plugged in my headphones and as I pressed play and the music flooded into my ears...I felt sick. Physically sick.
I was so shocked that the one thing I knew would always be there for me made me feel so uncomfortable and so pained. Another thing to add to my sense of loss of identity, of existence.
I guess thats a bit off topic though since my question is supposed to - what do I live for?
Feminism. Equal rights for women. Boom. *thoughts* I don't think I'd be judging to say that everyone has their own views or opinions on this. And I'm just going to casually chat as I always do about this topic~ whyyy? Cuz:
1) was talking about it with someone hence I was thinking about it
2) debating topic~
In a few days time, some of my friends from QE will be coming over to our school for a debating event, talking with the teachers about it today, it's rather likely that one of our debate topics will be about the 'weaker sex' or more so, the existence of such. This is to be expected not only since the teachers said this is probable but hey: girls school debating with boys school--> trending topic :p It seems that because our school is a girls' school, the teachers all expect us to be feminists and act as if they are too, instilling feminist values in us without knowing if that is even our true opinions.
I have nothing against 'equal rights' though I don't agree with it per se, however it almost maddens me how our teachers actively encourage the young girls in our school to hate or look down on the other gender. When the thought of 'sexism' comes up, its almost always thought of as the oppression or single sided views against women. However, sexism is very much a problem for men too.
Restless prancing,Quiet ripple,Moonlit ShoresOn undisturbed beaches,
Unnoticed smile,Silent giggle,To the bitter wind,That carries the dead,
Blooming flowers,Warm yellow, soft peach,Sweet yesterday,Oh bliss
This is what happened when I tried to write today about that feeling I had, I don't know if that's what bliss is, but to me it was beautiful. Anyways, I'm not entirely sure if this captures its essence but it does a fine job considering I'm having great difficulty writing. As per usual, its not editted or something I've spent hours on, written in a few minutes. And I decided to share this one with you guys to try and explain the previous post.