Today I saw a woman walking out of a parking lot carrying rolls of toilet paper under her arm.
A lot of people do that, carry toilet paper. I mean, everyone needs to buy toilet paper. (Or not, I guess, depending on your lifestyle preferences... I ain’t judgin’...)
But this woman... She was maybe in her early forties, a little pudgy, and she had this blank, bored look on her face.
Like she was just going through the motions of day to day living.
It's all about leverage.
Here's the deal: everyone, through unique life experiences, has their own unique sets of skills, strengths and talents.
But more importantly, you have a unique combination of those sets of skills.
If you find you have a talent for writing, the first thing you're going to figure is "Hey, maybe I should do something where I get paid to write!"
Congratulations, you're already a step ahead of the curve.
A lot of the tomatoes and strawberries you eat are probably grown hydroponically.
That means they grow directly in water, without soil. The water is fertilized, giving the plant the nutrients it needs directly through the water.
In soil, plants need to spread out their roots to collect all the nutrients they need to grow. This makes them comparatively heavy.
When you grow them directly in water, they don’t need to spread their roots as much, because they can just suck up the nutrients in the water. Provided the water is properly fertalized, the plant is happy.
This is probably the most important post I have written recently. Read it twice :)
When you look at the Forbes list of the wealthiest people on the planet, the vast majority of them made their fortune in one big chunk.
They didn’t work hard over a period of several years, making money, making money, and saving up to that big bank balance.
In a lot of cases, they built their business, and sold it for a big wad of cash.
I don’t know what you have been doing lately, but at three in the morning last night, I was working on a sales letter.
I don’t write sales letters at three in the morning because I have to, like I’m on some impossible deadline.
And, I don’t write sales letters at three in the morning because I’m so fantastically crazy about sales letters that I cannot spend a moment of my time NOT thinking about sales letters.
Or, um. Yeah, that last one is almost true.
Some people are vehemently opposed to the very idea of “faking it until you make it” as a strategy for success -- insisting that you can just play it real and be authentic.
My question, then, is: What the hell does that even mean?
It’s the same as the advice a mother gives her son the first time he’s going to ask a girl out.
The problem with just being yourself, is that “yourself” is covered with layers and layers of slimy egoic insecurities and self-limiting beliefs.
It’s actually perfectly good advice if you can get past that simple but not-so-easy-to-overcome obstacle.
~ The Big Chill (1983)
Yesterday I was talking on Skype with a client of mine who is a dating coach. He teaches men how to destroy inhibitions and other weird behaviors so they can really express themselves around women.
In any case, we briefly discussed how some students are... how every single group of people will organize themselves into chunks of 5%, 15% and 80%.
In any group of people, there will be a top 5% who are kicking ass and taking names, 15% who are doing pretty good, and the bottom 80% who aren’t doing much of anything.
And... within that top 5%, there will be another top 5%, a 15% and a bottom 80%. Very interesting stuff if you ask me.
My father has spent a couple of weeks studying to get a taxi driver’s license. He went for his first paid day yesterday, and drove a bunch of people all over the place.
As far as jobs go, I think it’s a pretty good one.
He said: “My brain is fried. I bet this is how you feel when you sit at a seminar for four days.”
I said “Yeah.”
I was with two different girls in two nights in Bangkok.
One of them, I met the same day. We spent the day together, and ended it in my room. The other, I had met earlier in the week. On my last night in town, she said she really wanted to see me, and met me on my street around 3am. Quite inconvenient, considering my plane left early the next morning.
Here's the thing. Never once did I do anything to "win over" these girls. Or try to impress them, or even try to entertain them.
What the majority of men do is try to impress. At the low end of the spectrum, you have the guys who show up on the first date with flowers and chocolates.
But then there are guys who have learnt that this is not attractive. Guys who girls actually LIKE when they go out together. Guys who have learnt to say the right things.
Last night I sat down and busted out a 9-page sales letter in about two or three hours.
I just got an idea for something out of the blue, and then I created it.
It was very spontaneous. It’s not like I had been going around procrastinating and avoiding doing this for six weeks.
I just got the idea. And then I did it because I had to get it out of my system.
Sometimes creativity is like that. Like you’re not even in control (which, actually, I’m not sure that we ever are) ... it just moves through you.