Hey, Todd Valentine here.
Today we’re going to be talking about online game. There is so much I’ve learned on this topic that I could write a book about it (and, actually, I am), so here we’ll stick to the basics, like how to set up an effective profile and how to start messaging. We’ll cover concepts more than we’ll cover specific techniques, but they should definitely be enough to get you started.
First off, you’re probably asking, Why online game?
Well, if you’re new to game, you may find it difficult to get a lot of dates using cold approach. So, by moving that initial interaction online, it is usually much easier to get dates (although at first there may be some hurdles to overcome). The online approach will allow all areas of your game to progress. When you get dates more easily, you will have more opportunities to practice what to do on the actual date, how to escalate, etc.
With that said, online game can provide massive amounts of abundance to guys of all levels of game. You’ll have a pipeline of girls and you’ll never feel worried that if you lose one girl, you’ll be alone. Another plus is that you can meet a lot of very intelligent girls online. They spend their time working or on the computer, so it’s much easier to meet them online than it would be to find them out partying.
So, there’s a little bit about why I like online game. Now let’s talk about how to play it.
There are essentially three main components of online game: Pictures, Profile, and Messages.
I encourage you to actually put some thought into these and make them the best you can. Do some research: don’t just slap something together in an attempt to get laid quickly, because this will backfire. Trust me, if you put in the time and effort, you will be rewarded. You probably won’t get great results at first, even if you do it right, but over time and with testing, you will see massive results. Remember this: online game comes down to hard work over skill, so anyone can do it.
Okay, let’s get back to those three components of online game:
Get some good pictures taken. You need at least one or two good quality headshots of you looking your best. Beyond this, it’s great to have pictures that show you and your lifestyle, and convey your personality, but you always want the default picture the girl sees (her first impression) to be a picture of you looking your most attractive. When in doubt, just take lots of pictures and look through them for the best one.
Also, along with those additional pictures that show what type of person you are and what you like to do, feel free to post a photo of yourself with a girl or girls. But beware: you don’t want to be the guy who’s trying to show off that he gets girls, so limit this type of picture to one.
Any time your picture or something about it shows value, you want to be sure to downplay it. For example, don’t use a picture of yourself flexing. An action shot of you playing volleyball with friends, where you just so happen to have chiseled abs, would be much better received. Get it?
You can even test which pictures girls like more by putting them up one at a time (split-testing) on the “hot or not” app or site, and seeing which one gets you better results. The key to success in online dating is being good at testing and split-testing, and being meticulous (to see what works in order to refine your game).
Before you write your profile, try doing these two things:
1). Sign up on the site as a girl and browse through the male profiles to see what other guys are saying. You’ll quickly find that most guys come across as massively needy and sexually frustrated. You’ll start seeing boring and clichéd lines and sayings on their profiles over and over, and you might even start skipping over these lines without meaning to. Don’t ever use these types of lines in your profile.
On the other hand, you might find a profile that stands out to you. Copy it into a Word document and look it over later. Feel free to steal ideas from other profiles to make yours into the best it can be (especially if what you’re copying made you smile or laugh).
2). Think of a few characters or actors from movies or television who you think are attractive to women: the types of guys who you would like to emulate. Then find your favorite quotes by them and use the quotes in your profile. This will help you appear to have the characteristics of an attractive man.
Now, at some point in your profile you should mention what you’re looking for in a girl. Be sure this part doesn’t come across as low-value. Avoid things like I don’t want a girl who treats me like shit or I don’t want a girl who spends hours in front of the mirror. The point instead is to simply indicate that you have standards.
Also, if there’s a headline feature on the site, be sure to say something that’s going to grab the girl’s attention. Again, look at what everyone else is doing, throw out the bad, and create something from the good.
Another side note is: it’s okay to be a little offensive in your profile. Just like in regular game, the girl isn’t going to go on the date with the guy who she thinks is just so-so . . . you need to be polarizing. There is no difference between a girl who thinks you’re just okay and a girl who hates you—neither of them are going to go out with you—so swing for the fences and play big, and naturally, some girls will love you.
To test your profile, you can try posting one version and then “winking at" or “poking” girls (whatever form of interaction the site uses that is not an actual message), measuring the response, and then testing with another version of your profile to see which gets the better response from girls.
Obviously, the message should get her attention. My advice is to start with two stock messages that you think are ideal, and then split-test them. Keep the one that’s getting you the better response, and test it against a new message. Keep repeating this process to improve your response rate. Again, feel free to try all sorts of approaches, and remember, it’s okay to be a little offensive or polarizing. You want your message to stand out from the other ones girls are receiving.
In conclusion, you must be willing to put in the time to experiment and learn, and trust that the rewards will come. Don’t worry about the rewards you may or may not get the first day, week, or month, because once you have a working online profile, you have something that will bring you phone numbers for years. It’s worth putting in the effort up front.
So that’s how to build a good online profile. It may have less to do with game and more to do with Internet marketing and the process, but the game part is easy to figure out if you have the process right.
Now get out there, get started, and see what you can learn.
I promise you'll learn a lot.
Hey guys, it’s Todd.
Today’s topic is: How to Get Her Phone Number.
Well, obviously the first step is to have a good interaction with the girl. It sounds like common sense right? It’s pretty basic- the better the interaction with the girl goes, the more likely she is to give you her number. In fact, if you run a really good interaction, ideally, if time permits you to get to know her and talk for a bit, she should be the one asking for your number, or at least suggesting that you take hers (however, this doesn’t happen a lot of the time).
So what does that mean? Well, you need to ask for the number at some point. *Note: JUST ASK. Let me repeat that for you. JUST ASK. I used to be in sales, and what I found interesting is that most of my coworkers would fail simply because they would never simply ask for the order. There’s even a statistic I remember reading that says that something like 80% of sales calls end without the caller ever even asking the potential buyer to make an order. Don’t be that guy.
I did not write this. But it changed my life. It's about social interaction, for the socially retarded. Like me. Like other aspies I suppose.
Author: Tyler Durden