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Best Pickup Lines

Hey guys, Todd Valentine here.

A question I’m often asked when people first find out that I’m a pickup artist or dating coach is, “What’s your pickup line?” It’s a normal question- a natural response to the unknown is to start at the beginning – but in my opinion, guys put way too much emphasis on this “pickup line,” this idea of the first thing you say.

I’ve found that it truly doesn’t matter what you say. I could give a guy with no experience in the game the best possible pickup line, but if it’s done in a nervous or reaction seeking way, or without the right tone of voice or body language, he’s going to look like a complete tool. On the other hand, if we take a guy who is centered in who he is, confident and grounded, and give him something really offensive to say, maybe calling the girl a dog, the guy can make it work (and most of the time, it works well).

What’s interesting about not only the opener, but the game in general, is that it’s not so much about what you say but how you say it. It’s not so much about what you do, as how you do it. Much of the game is about coming off as a guy who has an abundance of women- a guy who has had women and is confident in himself. Many people will try to “fake it till they make it,” and that can work to an extent, but obviously it’s much better to be genuinely confident.


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I think everyone's had a few of these- flirtationships. When you flirt with someone almost exclusively (does that make sense?) but you're not in a relationship (whether you want to be in one or not is up to you~).

I'm not really one for flirting, its cute and funny and interesting at times but to be honest not really my thing. Either flirting with other people or them flirting with me, just don't like it. Of course I'm flattered but mmmmh back off I'm not interested. So obviously I don't make a habit of doing it either, though I should be a bit more accurate. I guess I'm ever so slightly (hehe completely) sexist since I only ever flirt with *girls* not *guys*. Don't know why, maybe since I'm generally more ummm masculine? Well, with most people anyways. So maybe that's why but I think more of a reason is that girls are more 'physical' without actually touching you.

I love contact, but only with people I know. That's pretty much the same for everyone? So it really annoys me when someone I don't know touches me - hands off! And girls aren't so quick to touch in a more...ummm...invasive (?) way? Or maybe I'm just more comfortable with girls?

I like hugs with basically everybody though I'd say girls give better hugs so I guess I prefer contact with girls as well. Off topic~~

Anyways, flirtationships. The reason I don't really like them is well, they're undefined. I don't like that. Like...you're not friends, but you're nothing more than friends either. It would be *horrible* to be stuck in a flirtationship if you actually liked that person but was unsure what the other person felt. Just to point out, flirtationships only exist when the two people are friends-good friends.

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