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Tandem nursing: round two

On July 1st, 2014 at 3:16am, our family grew by one very adorable little girl, Chloe. With her, a new adventure has started! A new tandem nursing experience with Chloe and Desmond.

Before Chloe was born, I was sure that this tandem experience would be exactly like the experience I had with Chase and Desmond. Chase was never jealous of Desmond. He never showed any ill feelings towards the baby. And he happily nursed right alongside Desmond. There was no need to explain sharing. Chase was content nursing on one side while Desmond nursed on the other. The only rough times I can remember were when I didn't want to nurse them both at the same time. As long as Chase got to nurse when Desmond nursed, all was well. Over time, Chase nursed less and less. He also got used to nursing without Desmond and waiting until Desmond was done nursing before he got a turn. I was taken by surprise when Desmond flat out refused to nurse with Chloe.

The first time I tried to nurse Desmond and Chloe, Desmond latched on first. I then laid Chloe on top of me to latch onto the other side while I laid back on the bed. Desmond immediately began to fuss and swat at her. He pushed her head. He tried to keep the other boob away from her so she couldn't latch. He finally gave up nursing and cried; kicking and hitting in frustration. He wanted nothing to do with nursing with his sister. As far as he knew, the nursing was all his. And maybe that's his personality. Or maybe that's because Chase hasn't nursed for the past 6 months and Desmond has forgotten what its like to share. I'll never know.

Tandem nursing started off much more difficult than the last time. But the three of us are finding our way. Desmond is more used to Chloe being around and has nursed with her calmly once. Desmond now knows that he can still nurse even though there is another nursling around to share with. It took some patience, understanding, and love from me. And of course, time.

Surprises From Max's First Four Months


Baby Max is four months old today. I posted when he was one month, talking about what a difficult little demon he was, but after eight weeks he magically changed overnight into the sweetest baby ever! We were so surprised the first time he slept 7.5 hours straight instead of waking up every 3 hours, we kept waking up anyway just to go stare at him. "Maybe there's something wrong with him!" But he kept doing it, and now he sleeps from around 8pm to 4:30am every night, wakes up to feed, then goes back to sleep until around 7:30am. It is amazing. And where before he cried a lot, always seemed unhappy, and didn't even know how to smile, now he generally loves everything and will smile his head off if you just look at him.

Here are some more surprises from the first four months of Max.

1. He loves "reading" books.

I had thought that before he could read or understand words, or even be able to visually recognize cartoons of things, he would get bored when I read to him. But even from the beginning, books held his attention and excited him. Thanks for all the books, everyone (but especially Mom)!

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