Some people who grew up a long time ago like me might remember this song: "When I'm worried and I can't sleep, I count my blessings instead of sheep and I fall asleep, counting my blessings..."
Worry, discouragement, inertia, upsetness, fear: negative feelings can be "negated" with gratitude. Negative states can be prolonged easily but telling ourselves stories about the bad things that happened in the past or by remembering more things to worry about/feel discouraged about/be upset about/be fearful about. You know, digging the hole deeper. Very easy and usually automatic.
Noticing that you have the pattern described above is the first thing to do. Not automatic, not easy. But it's a skill to learn.
My suggestion is to notice, then say: No, I prefer not to go there. I'm going toward gratitude: and think of things or people that you're grateful for.
You then have the chance to change your mood and outlook.
Things to be grateful for:
- living in a country where most of us don't have the consuming need just to survive
- being able to breathe and notice that our body knows how to function well
- music that can take you over so you're nothing but that music
- art that can draw you in, fascinate you and make you forget you
- watching wild life, birds, bees...their nonchalance, their aliveness, their naturalness
- drinking in flowers with their colors, perfection, vitality
- people around you who hug you, care about you, smile at you
- being able to read, to learn, to apply and grow
The list can be endless.
You get the idea.
There are other ways to relate to your negative states, but that's another post.
I'm sure, if you read this, you will have something to say. Be truthful--it helps us all.