Is there any time in your life where you are not proving something to someone? Think about it. At every stage there is something to prove. At least it seems that way. Consider the following.
- We just dropped off our eldest at school. He has to now prove he can handle the work and progress in his major. Or else!
- Daughter starts high school. Prove you can do the work. Also or else!
- Middle son has to prove he is a good student and graduate. Now prove you can do college work.
- My wife has to prove herself at work.
That leaves me. Here is my "prove it" look:
ok maybe that is more of my tired look. But it could apply. I have come to realize that we have to prove it constantly.
When don't we have to prove it?
How about this:
- Unconditional love for our family. Nah, you still have to show them. Take nothing for granted.
- You have "arrived" at work. Arrived where? Each day you have to bring it. Trust me on this.
- That you are worthy. Bingo! There is one you don't have to prove.
I have found that my worst critic is me. It drives all kinds of bizarre, somewhat irrational behavior at times. But I am worthy, regardless of what others believe. I don't need external validation of this.
At the same time I don't need to be judgmental of others. They too are worthy.
And that is the point.
When we stop judging others, consider ourselves worthy, then we have nothing left to prove. Yeah you may need to prove yourself worthy to remain employed, but even that is not a guarantee. Trust me on that also.
I like my job, love my family, and I am getting along better with me. Nothing else to prove.
What about you? Do you feel the need to constantly prove yourself? Let me know. It is far more interesting than what I have to say.