Lets start with apologizing for being away so long > . < Sorry guys, I've been a bit busy. Anyways, the post:
Priorities. I always seem to get them wrong. What's more important - being happy in your present or being happy in your future? Being happy yourself or making others happy? Being successful or being content? Heart or mind?
It's difficult for me to say. And in what order should I prioritize the people in my life? My parents have for me what they can, loved me and scolded and tried to do what they think is best for me. But...does that give me an obligation to prioritize them over my own wishes? Or my friends or people I love? For one thing, I know my parents want me to have a very academic job where I make lots of money, which is all well but personally, I'd rather just go without the stress.
And they don't really like how I dress, I don't dress particularly scantily or anything, its just that I like wearing crop tops and they hate it. Something like this for me is easy to just conform to their wishes, after all, I understand their concerns.
They also have a very particular idea about who they want me to date or marry. Rich, clever, good job, etc. etc. and of course - Singhalese! Which errr...is not happening XD
It's pretty much what every parent wants for their kids (excuse me for being so judgmental but more so, for their daughters) and I get it, rich husband = happy wife who can buy whatever she wants and has a secure future.
It's not that I hate the idea of a rich or intelligent boyfriend, its just that for me, it doesn't really get on my err ''list of requirements''. If I need money, I can make it myself, if there's problems in the future I don't need a man to fix them for me. Much rather someone who can make me happy, the person themselves - isn't that what matters?
Oh and on that note, of course they are insistent that I date or marry a man.
So if my parents have this vision of what they want for me, am I obligated to try please them? My parents are very particular about this by the way, to the extent that my father insists if I marry the wrong the person he'll never see me again ._. Inteeeeense XD
Other things I see as choices in my life that should be up to me are things like tattoos. I love them and I want quiet a few, in contrast, my mother absolutely abhors them. Not a good mix. Also hates motorbikes since they can be dangerous and come on...errr...me? *motions to 4"9 of petite human-ness* yeeeaaaah....">.>
But to what extent are you obligated to go to please your parents? Ok, by law I'm pretty much my parents belonging until I'm classified as an adult and my own choices aren't overridden by that of my parents. Also, they did labour away all these years to bring me up and I know they are only trying to think of happiness. I don't resent it of course not, I know they just want what they think is best for me, I just wish they wanted for me what I want for me.
QOTD : Who does your life belong to?
On the thought of that question, its often said that it's selfish to take your own life, however, how can it be classified as selfish to do with your own belongings as you wish? Or does it imply your life is not your own?
Thankies guys~! And again, sorry for not posting in a while :3 Till next time ^ _ ~