Lately I've been trying to get my goals done, or at least head closer to them. But for every two steps I take, I take one step back. Some days I might take 4-5 steps forward and only 1 back. Those are the days when willpower or time constraints push me to go further. The usual days tho, or just the days where I say I want something, I want to Learn Japanese, I want to have a strong online presence, I want to earn money, Etc. But the truth is "want" is not enough.
Everyone wants freedom. Everyone wants to be happy. But the truth is not many get what they want. And its not because they aren't motivated, its because Motivation itself is not pressuring
Think about why the majority of high schools and college students cram for exams one-two days (sometimes the same day) as the exam?
Why do most employees only do the jobs that are extremely urgent, time sensitive, or the ones the boss designates as extremely important?
Why do people who have bad habits like eating lots of sugar or smoking do it even though they know its bad, but when they are diagnosed with diabetes or cancer, suddenly take drastic action?
This isn't about motivation, Its about pressure.
Pay attention to your surroundings and the people you know. Which ones are being more successful which ones are getting more things done in less time? which ones are usually the ones most content with their life?
9 out of 10 times its the ones that put themselves under pressure.
The people who succeed are constantly exposing themselves to new things, putting themselves under pressure, and pushing themselves.
Putting oneself under pressure is the best way to push yourself over the edge and really get your feet wet. This is why things like giving your friends money and having that be collateral if you don't achieve your goals is so powerful, its put you under pressure.
The holy grail of course would be to put yourself under pressure mentally. As I've mentioned in another post, everything is mental. And this is why different people react to different things depending on nature vs nurture. Some people react to money, other people react to a shiny new item in a video game.
Here are some ways I've found of putting yourself under pressure and developing a mindset that does so.
1. The most powerful thing you can do is surround yourself with people who put themselves under pressure. People who say "I really got to do this right now" or " I am going to undertake this new X" all the time fit this category. The number one way to get good at anything is surrounding yourself with people who are already doing it.
2. Competition. Find a friend who is/is looking to adopt this mentally as well. Make sure you find a friend you can trust to actually care about this. And then compete, criteria can range from running x miles in x time, coding certain things, learning something. Competition, if used correctly, can put one under insane pressure to succeed.
3. Collateral. Give a trusted friend an amount of money you don't want to lose and tell them not to give it back to you unless you do your challenge. Make sure you are serious and give you friend an amount of money that actually holds value to you.
4. Surround yourself solely with things that evoke what you want. This is similar to the first one, but revolves more around inanimate things. Some people can't do this because they might have busy lives and countless things to look over. But if you have down time it is more effective to spend 5 minutes setting up an environment that is conducive to your goal than it is to save those 5 minutes trying to succeed in an environment than isn't conducive to your goal.
For example, Its more effective to spend 5 minutes clearing out all the fatty foods in your fridge/pantry, than it is to save 5 minutes. Same goes for everything else. Use programs like rescue time, and spend time setting up a conducive work environment to work in. This creates artificial pressure because it discourages you from doing something you would otherwise do.
Using these techniques to create pressure will help you a long way. But most of all train yourself. Challenge yourself, try to learn 50 words in German in 30 minutes with flash cards. Go run as fast as you can and see what time you make, and do that every other day until you run better. Get used to being under pressure. Embrace being under pressure. Most of all realize that all great things in life where achieved under pressure. Pressure to win is what makes the best athletes the best. Pressure is why the best CEO's and business leaders are usually involved in various organizations. Pressure is why a person who would otherwise not learn a language, becomes compelled to learn it once exposed to that language's country.
Put yourself under pressure and watch what happens.