Mike Dariano

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You do it wrong until you don't

Do you see those chocolate rice cakes with peanut butter spread over the top? The creamy nut butter fills the crevices and dips of the cake to provide each bite with a satisfying crunch and a smooth delight. They are delicious. My four year old made them.

I didn't know she could do this but she could. I thought that she might have trouble opening the peanut butter jar and then not being able to unwind the cakes. Then the peanut butter would probably be too tough for her to scoop out with a knife and spreading it around would be impossible. Then, for sure, she would slip off the stool she was on and knock a plate to the floor. If all went well there was no way she could safely navigate two plates from the counter to table without dropping one and having the dogs who were swirling around like sharks getting one.

But she did.

She was born almost five years ago and she couldn't do this.

She was one and she couldn't do this.

A simple musing based on an interaction with my children

On Kicking Thoughts

Words can hurt faster than they can heal.

People say things often in the heat of the moment which would have been best left unsaid. Some things, just cannot be "unsaid".

Over the course of ten minutes, I had four talks with my children regarding how they use their words and what sort of affect they can have on people. One conversation was about speaking to each other respectfully. Another was about embellishing the truth. The last two, were probably the most important and related specifically to an interaction between my daughter and my son.

My son told one of my daughters secrets. He didn't do it to be malicious, but the betrayal was definitely felt by my daughter. Because of that, her words and actions towards him were embittered. He's a pretty sensitive kid, so her tongue lashing really hit home.

I had an opportunity to talk to them both about trust. But specifically about how their actions and what they say can engender different kinds of trust. My daughter now knows that she can trust my son to reveal her secrets if she shares them with him. My son can trust that my daughters wrath will quickly follow if she shares her secrets.

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