Dear Unhappy Former Self,
At lot has changed since we parted ways…
The basic differences are easy to point out. First and foremost, I am in a lot better shape than you. I am about 60 pounds lighter and a whole lot more agile and flexible. Whereas, you got winded after a 50 ft dash to answer the phone, I can now maintain a dead sprint for half a mile at sea level without losing my breath. It might seem hard to believe but I also heal faster than you. Injuries and bruises are gone sooner for me than they are for you. The world reacts in better ways to my presence than it does to yours. When people give me a double take, it is no longer to make sure I am not trying to sneak candy into a movie theater.
I also feel a whole lot better than you. I sleep less hours but feel more rested. I have more energy but eat less sugar. My mind feels sharper but I take no medications. I am better at doing mental math, remembering names and communicating my ideas. I have improved focus, stamina and discipline. You have cheap beer and even cheaper promises.
You were an important part of my life but like a negative friend, you were holding me back. The same wit we shared is no longer the single string that keeps me alive in social situations.
I now have purpose, goals and confidence.
Simply put, I decided to dump you. No more excuses. No more whining. No more accepting the world as it was. It wasn’t me, it was you. The break up was difficult but put frankly, I realized I could do better than you.
I decided to make diet and exercise a priority and made the decision to fully commit myself to my life list. It was hard at first but gradually I started to become better than you. My priorities became clear and I started to gain momentum. I started to take more chances and slowly started to learn what was possible.
We share a lot in common, you and I. We both have the same hard past experiences that we can choose to allow to limit us. We still have the same fears and the same faults.
You wake up every morning with a smile and optimism for tomorrow.
I wake up every morning with a smile and optimism for today.
I make change happen now.
Hope is not lost for you. You can still become whatever or whoever you want. That burst of inspiration that occasionally enlightens you, can still be turned into action. The only variable is you. You must decide to cultivate that change in yourself. It won’t be a caring friend, a successful co-worker or a concerned doctor that turns the steering wheel of your life, it will have to be you. You are not the best version of yourself, you can improve. Make the decision to act! If you do, a happier future awaits.
A much happier you :-)
Hey Danny, just checked out your Tedx talk! Really proud of you for taking action and accomplishing so many of your goals! And good job on the weight loss too! :)
I am currently living with a 300 pound female artist who focuses mostly on painting portraits of naked people and cats. She doesn’t speak a word of English (only Catalan) but seems very nice. Our short conversations consist mostly of me saying “Bueno” and “Gracias” a lot (I am a very polite spanish speaker) and have on more than one occasion devolved into us talking to each other through Google Translate.
I think we both think the living arrangement is kind of fun. ;-p
At the beginning of the week, we had a chat that was different than the ones before it.
“Something something something, amigo, no cama, tres dias, something something something”, she told me with a huge smile.
This month's challenge is to live a happier life. Here's where I got started.
To start with happiness might seem like I'm unhappy, that's not true. It's a bit closer to Am I content with the foods I eat?
I like to eat pizza and chili. Somedays I think I could eat those two things all the time, but not really. Those things would get boring and their allure would spoil. Instead I need to find more food options and to do that I have to start looking. One recent example is with my chili recipe. I formally used the seasoning packets that come premixed as 'Chili' or 'Spicy Chili' off the grocery store shelves. As I was looking at the ingredients one day, I realized all the spices in those little packages already lived happily in my cabinet. I opened my cabinet to find chili powder, cumin, paprika, and cayenne pepper lined up like little soldiers. I started mixing and remixing until I found an even better combination for my chili. The same with happiness.