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Homosexuality: The Ice Breaker

I love meeting new people; it's one of the things I live for. There is no better night out for me than one where I walk home with new friend requests on Facebook and conversations on Whatsapp. I love the experience of meeting a new person, the various stages of conversation you go through, the back and forth jovial banter that will make or break whether you talk to this person ever again. It's fun to watch, and it's certainly fun to partake in.

Now, I'm a pretty interesting guy, I have plenty of potential talking points and conversation is certain to never run dry. There is my androgynous taste in fashion to discuss, my psychology degree and love of serial killers (if conversation is slightly darker than usual), even my love of scarves and my insistence to wear them as belts has come up several times before. So why, why, oh why, must conversation always end up at the same junction.

Uhhh...no offence, but are you gay?

It always begins with no offence; I mean always. Which part of me finds a little funny, and most of me finds  infuriating. Why would someone take offence to a simple question like that? And if he/she were the sort of person that would be so highly offended by such a simple question I believe you have to ask yourself 'is this really the sort of person I want to be talking to?' The point: drop the 'no offence', it implies that what you are saying could be taken offensively, which is ridiculous.

But in my experience, if you take away the alcohol and club setting, being gay and meeting people for the first time can take different paths. When I started University, I realised that I was going to be in a group of people, none of which I knew and that eventually people were gonna start talking. I decided to see just how long it would take.

7 for seven: September 2 (on September 3)

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So, with the holiday, and the packing (move in one week, eek!) I forgot to do my "7 for seven" (key + arrow inspired) happiness list yesterday. Happy to see that Contrary Mom is joining in the fun too. So without further ado:

1. Re-watching the tv series, Avatar: The Last Airbender. I love sci/fi and fantasy shows, and this series, which my boys and I watched in a marathon of late-bedtime nights two (or three?) summers ago, is wonderful. And this past week for some reason we decided to rewatch some of it. Like hanging out with an old friend. (The humorless, boring movie was such a disappointment. Someone should try again with the film idea. Someone funny.)

2. Family. Over the weekend we spent time with some family members, and I get such a joy out of seeing my kids hang out with their cousins. I didn't really know my own cousins that well, or even my grandparents. It is fun to see the joy and care and love that they all experience together. And the fighting. :-)

3. DnDish. My boys share my love of sci-fi and fantasy stories, and in the past they have played a fun "Dungeons & Dragons" type of game with a babysitter, who just made it all up as he went along. My older son asked me about playing d&d, and while I had only played it a couple times as a teen, I could see how it would be a fun evening activity for us. So I looked online for "kids' d&d" games. There are a lot! My favorite was "DnDish", in that it is really, really simplified and allows for kid-style improvisation and flexibility. E.g., there aren't really character "classes": my youngest is a half-ogre/half-human hybrid warrior/wizard. His backstory is that he was "created" by a wizard. At the end of our second adventure, he got to meet his "father," the wizard, and I swear, younger son almost cried. It was sweet. And it's fun! Without a screen in front of us. Yay!

4. Breaking Bad. I figured out that I can get episodes of Breaking Bad on Amazon. $2 each, which is pricey, but, worth it to me. Jessie + Hank, OMG!

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