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By age 19, I found out that I wasn't black...

I will admit it, up until my sophomore year of College I lived my life as a young, black man.Growing up in the late 80' and early 90's, I was raised just like every other black child in Brooklyn.I used to listen to hip hop, I watched "Different Strokes" and the "Cosby Show" on television, and my favorite athlete growing up was Michael Jordan.In junior high school I used to stay up late at night practicing my "Kid and Play" dance moves in the mirror, and my father lowered our basketball rim in the back yard to 8 feet so my friends could dunk just like Michael.In High School I considered myself a SUPERSTAR, and I had no doubt in my mind that I was going to become a professional athlete.That all changed for me in COLLEGE.In college I joined the school track team, and I trained my ASS off that year.   I was in the gym for 2 hours a day, track practice for another 3 hours, and by the end of the outdoor track season I was in the best shape of my life. Towards the end of the season my coach entered me into an "open" race at a track meet in Harlem, and it turned out that I was going to be running the 200 meter dash. (Half a lap around a track)For the start of the race I was assigned lane 5, and in the lane to the right of me was this young black kid that must have been no older than 12.  His legs were just as long as mine, but his upper body was half the size and he was running in gigantic basketball sneakers.  I noticed that he had a couple of College coaches watching him during his warmups, but I didn't really pay him any mind.  Besides, I was in the best shape of my life!!!BANG! So the starting gun goes off!!I got a really good start and started building up my speed, but when I looked up I couldn't believe my eyes! This random 12 year old black kid from Harlem was destroying me in 200 meter dash while wearing basketball sneakers.  I've never seen anything like it in my entire life.When I got home that night I started to question myself:Should I keep running?Is all this training worth it?Will I ever be the best? And then it hit me. I was just a regular white kid...That was my last year of College track.Power out!Check out my book! 

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On The Tiny Octopus

What started out as my exploration of an age-old question: whether total nerds have a chance at snagging highly desired women ripples into a topic that permeates into a thorough exploration of everything regarding the enigma we call 'love' and how it may not be as magical as we first deem it to be.

Reupdate: 3/14/13 Didn't really mean to update on Valentine's Day but there we go. I rescind my 51/49 soul/body split I mentioned in the 3/13 update after responding to Zach's post on Sebastian Marshall's blog http://sebastianmarshall.com/dont-underestimate-biochemistry. I now believe it is a dynamic split that changes based on situation.

Update: 3/13/13 In yet another update of this post's evolution the original question has been staked in the heart by Tynan's latest post Not that kind of person. I am now more convinced than ever that there are no 'pre-sets' in life and the only barriers we put up are the ones of our own making. Not everyone starts on even-footing and some have advantages over others but in the long run for most things we are self-defined. For the longest time I've tackled a deeper philosophical question - is the body a victim of biological processes or are biological processes controlled by the body? (ie can we use willpower alone to induce biological change) Are human personalities just a sum of biochemical reactions or is the human persona a product of the 'soul'? I now believe that we have a lot more power than we give ourselves credit for and even though our bodies and higher aspects (mind/soul) may often conflict with one another ultimately the higher aspects are in control.

Admittedly hormones and such play a big role in our day to day feel/function and have enough weight to throw us off course . Starting out I think we may be a 51/49 split of mind over matter but with self discipline and proper care of the human vessel in my experience that ratio only goes up to pass more control to the higher self.

Update: 9/6/12 Figure I'd clean this up and add in a shortcut to help anyone trapped in the loop of pining for women - most of what is considered "love" doesn't exist just sex. Read the end of this post for the explanation why. Otherwise original post below...

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