First let me start off by saying that love is deadly. It is crazy to one day hit this certain time in your life where you look at your boyfriend/girlfriend and realize I'm not just interested in you, I am completely infatuated with you.
It is impossible to say you have never loved. Somewhere out in the world whether its a friend or a family member you love them. And if they left you, you would hurt. But the big one I want to discuss is being in love with someone because thats where its serious. If you haven't been one of those people yet feel lucky because with love comes pain.
If you have loved someone and been hurt from it, there is a guarenteed sadness that comes from it, you shed some tears but I promise you move on. When you have hit the "I am in love with you", this is where you realize "What would I do without this person, because i am so utterly one with them that I literally can not imagine life without them."
Let me tell you, I am a guilty member of those trying to recover from an "i was/still/and will always be in love with you" heartbreak.
On Your Life Better
Recently, I received a private reply to my post Sometimes We Suck At Life where I gave some advice on life and living. My admission in that post that “I had it all; a good paying career, a wonderful and supportive wife, and four awesome children,” stimulated this reader to ask, respectfully, what kind of advice I would give to someone else sitting in their car having a similar breakdown who didn't have the blessings I listed.
Implicit in the question was this; If a single parent of four children, with a low-paying job that he or she hated, and who had little family support, was sitting in their car, having a similar crisis, what advice would you (I) offer them?”
In other words, it was fairly easy for me to make a change in my attitude because I had good things to fall back on. So big deal that I changed my thinking.
Four years ago I would have gone into full defensive mode with that question and the implications therein. But you know what, this reader made a great point. He made me stop to examine and ponder just what he was asking. And it is a relevant question.