Paul says in 1 Corinthians that it would be good if all men were like him and didn’t get married, and Solomon says that he who finds a wife finds a good thing. –Take away. Married or not, you’re ok.
Let’s outline this thing.
Before we get into any advice. We need to understand dating. Depending on where you grew up your definition of dating will vary. So do yourself a favor and toss that definition out of your head.
For this blog we will be defining dating as a romantic relationship with marriage as the end goal.
“What if I just want to date for fun?”
Great question, thanks for asking. Don’t.
If you want to hang out with a girl, that’s fine, but the second you add romance you start to tinker with those hormones that God gave us to keep marriages together.
“Do not awaken love until it is time.” (Song of Solomon)
Really starts to take play here.
In the booked Hooked it talks about how our bodies are wired to release these chemicals (I’d tell you what they were, but then you wouldn’t go read the book.) That create a chemical bond between a guy and a girl when we do things like touch, kiss, and yes even have sex. And the more those bonds are made and broken the more difficult it becomes for you to live up to that lifelong marriage commitment you made in front of your closest friends, family, and more importantly God.
Because as Christians our goal with dating cannot entertainment, it has to be marriage.
“What if all my friends are doing it?”
All of your friends could very well be idiots.
If you were really wanting to be like them then you wouldn’t be on here looking for dating advice.
“This girl is an 11 on a scale of 10, and for some reason she totally wants my bod.”
Your scale is skewed, and in 60 years the new version of her will look better. Aesthetics are not the best reason to choose a mate.
Again, goal of dating is marriage.
“Got it. How do I find one of those girls all those married guys hang out with, I think they’re called wives?”
I like that spunk.
First question when finding a wife. Does she love Jesus?
If the answer to that is a resounding yes, then go for it. Seriously, that’s the only question that needs answered. We could go into more detail about other “key indicators” but those will take care of themselves. If you’re really dying to know what to look for read Proverbs 31:10.
“Goal, girl, God, check. What’s next?”
Are you someone you’d want your daughter/sister/cousin/best friend who’s also a girl to date?
Don’t lie to me.
Run through the checklist;
If you answered yes to all of those. And I do mean all of them. Then you’re probably ready to start this thing.
I’ll leave you with this.
Dating without the intent of marriage is like going to the grocery store without any money. You either leave unsatisfied, or you take something that isn't yours.
Don't forget to check out part 2.
The Unforgiving Minute
There’s only one thing that parallels my affinity for alliteration, and that’s fitness. If your existence thus far has been on planet Earth then you know exercise, in almost any amount really, has a positive impact on both physical and mental health. This is why I’m not going to talk about the “7 Mental Benefits of Working Out” or “New Year’s Resolutions for Fitness”. Silly blogs and People Magazine have those topics on lock. Whether you’re looking to get swole, ripped, shredded, or yoked I think we can all agree that a well-rounded guy should strive for fitness and a healthy lifestyle.
Run 400 meters or for 60 seconds as fast as you can; whichever is faster. Do this at least once or twice a week. Why? Because it’s healthy to enter the pain cave…often. What’s so special about 400 meters or 60 seconds? First let’s look at 400 meters. No matter what kind of shape you’re in, if you run as hard as you can you’re going to hit a threshold of lactic acid, aka the sensation of your legs weighting 250 lbs a piece. Even Michael Johnson, who holds the World Record at 43.18 seconds, gets slammed with lactic acid around 320 meters. Basically, everyone is going to feel the same pain at some point in the run (fear bonding with your fellow man). Here’s a look at why 60 seconds is so special. Don’t worry too much about ATP or PC, just know they are forms of energy that the body creates to keep you going at 100% physical exertion. If you’ll notice, the body essentially runs out of energy ammo right at the one minute mark. At this point you switch exclusively to long duration energy systems.
To end, here’s a slick quote from the guy who wrote one of the manliest books ever written, The Jungle Book, you may have heard of it:
Guess what!! The “so many ways to love ya” which Usher talked about are really exist. All females like to be loved, but each one of them got her own meaning of the word LOVE.
·Some of them just like wasting time, fool YOU, and take advantage of you, and this is the most common kind.
·Some just wanna talk to boys because they think that’s vicious, lewd, and lascivious!!! This kind got the sluttiness in their blood!!!
·And some are searching for real love and a long lasting CONSERVATIVE relationship that is built on trust, that you feel that those couple are married and they really care for one another.
I really do like the third kinda girls, because they clearly know what the meaning of Crossing the lines is. They ask themselves regularly: DO I SEE MYSELF MARRYING THIS GUY? , but some males don’t like that; they don’t like girls who want something serious, as if his sister were a slut!! You should keep in mind that the girl you’re dating or hanging out with, and supposed to be your girlfriend is someone else’s sister, or at least got who cares for her more than you do.