What to Message Girls
Because SMS messaging is a fairly new concept, many of us have never been shown the secrets to texting a girl. So naturally, most guys surely blow it comes time to craft the perfect message.
Most guys misjudge the reason that a woman seems to quickly lose interest in them. One of the biggest reasons a man will lose a woman’s interest is over during the “phone game.”
Texting girls is something that any guy can learn. But it takes practice, knowledge, and the ability to recognize what kind of messaging women respond to.
In order to figure out what kind of SMS attract a woman and keep her liking you, you must first realize what proper messaging should be used for.
3 Reasons for To Use Your Phone
Usually, a man will be using his phone for one of three purposes:
1.He is trying to make an initial contact after meeting her out somewhere.
2.He just wants to keep himself in the girl’s mind until the next time he sees her.
3.He is using texting to escalate his relationship with the woman to a more playful or sexual level.
Biggest Mistakes You Might Be Making
In a minute, I’m going to talk about how to text girls the right way… but first, I want to talk about some of the big mistakes you might be making with your cell phone.
Once you overcome these errors, it will be a lot easier for you to reach your “phone game” goals.
Blunder #1: Sending a boring message serves no point. These sort of messages include; “How you doing?” or “What”s going on?” Texts like these DO NOT distinguish you from the hundreds of other guys that are also messaging the woman you’re talking to.
Blunder #2: The second big blunder is messaging a girl too much and too often. SMS messages should be used in limited doses in order to create mystery, suspense, and intrigue. If you are texting women all the time, they will stop looking forward to your messages.
Blunder#3: The final blunder guys make is they try to have a conversation over SMS. Messaging shouldn’t be used as a way to get to know a girl.
Some other big blunders texting women:
▪Always messaging her back too quickly and appearing needy
▪Trying too hard to get her to like you
▪Letting the woman control the flow of messaging (ie. Is she always the one to end it??)
▪Not getting playful,”flirtatious,” or sexual in your messages
Flirting Over the Phone
Every message you send should have some type of playfulness and flirtation. You should always aim to demonstrate a fun side of your personality every time you are texting her.
During the first few messages you are just trying to show her that you can be fun and social around girls. Your texts should always present the impression that you live a fun and adventurous life.
Stay light and playful, then jump into serious topics, and then back to being playful and flirtatious.
The technique is to banter with the girl back and forth and leave the interaction on a high note, by either stop texting her back, or by finishing it with a message like “talk later…”
It is also important to display small chunks of your personality in these messages, and avoid being boring like the plague.
This means you never make statements like “I’m bored,” or if she ask what you’re up to texting “Nothing special.”
Instead answer by being interesting, playful, and intriguing when SMS with a woman.
Now lets talk about the 3 rules to text flirting with girls.
Are you lost in a sea of information, grasping to find the real deal on how to attract a woman FOR KEEPS? Does it seem like there's a new book coming out every week, leaving you deeper in confusion about which advice to take??
Worse, you have friends and colleagues giving you their own unique take on what works and what doesn't work in a relationship. The World Wide Web is filled to the brim with all sorts of conflicting information, and it's hard to make sense of it all.
If all of the things those authors have tried in their own lives have worked for each and every one of them, why do their books cancel each other out??
There can be only so many versions of the truth out there; it can drive an average guy NUTS.
Well, this is where your INNER VOICE comes into play. It's really up to you to decide which piece of advice would work BEST with your unique circumstances.
In a relationship, am I wrong in thinking that its essentially a guy's job to chase the woman and the woman's to keep the man? Of course I only mean on the surface because relationship stuffs is normally just a mess.
Just to point out that I'm really just talking about 'on the surface' so no I'm not saying that that's how it really is, I'm saying that's pretty much how its viewed.
Ok lets get started! So the situations I've been, considering the small amount of life experience I have, are not enough to prove or support anything, so I'm going to focus on situations older people would be more likely to find themselves in. Oh, that and girls' school doesn't really give you that much experience with guys in a school environment (no shit XD)
It's expected of a guy to start conversation with a girl, chat them up or just talk, its expected of a guy to pick up a girl, not the other way round. It's even viewed that a girl who starts flirting with a guy is slutty or desperate, in contrast (most ._.) guys are viewed as confident when they approach a girl. In my opinion I feel like that view is only subjected by the respective genders towards themselves: girls feel that girls who flirt are slutty but guys feel they're confident and attractive, and girls find guys creepy almost full stop XD
And then when a couple gets together, although the man is expected to try keep their girl happy, make cute gestures and compliment her make her happy etc etc that's pretty much cliché since it's just guys trying to fulfil the Prince Charming role. Not saying they shouldn't cuz we girls like that XD But it's always been viewed that the woman is the home maker, its her job to take care of the emotional crap mostly and her job to keep herself in check to be the woman her man wants. Once again, not saying that's not how it should be.