I've been trying this exercise when I am meditating and working on my first writing during the day. It's motivating me to be healthier, do more push-ups, eat healthier foods and relax more without putting pressure on myself.
I really like it. It's so easy to be hard on myself and this practice is helping me be much easier with myself.
I love it. : )
So here’s your mission for today:
Practice the self-acceptance technique here:
- Find something about yourself that you’re unhappy with: maybe your body, maybe your failures with habits, maybe procrastination, maybe jealousy, maybe timidness or selfishness or laziness.
- See the ideal that you’re holding yourself up against. If you don’t like your timidness, your ideal is probably social confidence and courage.
- See that you’re trying to control yourself with this ideal. This is natural: by having the ideal, we think we can create who we are. We want to have control over ourselves as people. The alternative, which is aimless chaos, is scary.
- For just a minute, let go of that control. Don’t try to be that ideal. Let it go, and just sit there with the reality of who you are. You’re timid (or lazy, or you’ve failed, or you are overweight or skinny or whatever). This is who you are, right now.
- See the good in what you actually are. If you’re timid, don’t judge this against anything else … just see the good in it. Find a way to be grateful for this condition. It’s not all of who you are, but an aspect of you at this moment, and there’s something to be grateful for here. You can be grateful for being alive (being timid is better than being dead), for being loved, for being a good person, for learning what you’ve learned.
Journal about it.
Try this every day at the beginning of your Unprocrastination session, and see if you find out anything new each time.